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To Love, Honor and Vacuum...Sheila Wray Gregoire
I haven't read this book but the title caught my eye..I think for me it's more like To Love, Honor and Vacuum... and clean and cook and personal assistant and accountant, etc etc etc. It may be because I've been married for a long time, sometimes you do wonder if the better half actually needed a maid and a personal assistant rather than a wife...especially if he appears to reside at work. Thoughts?
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Permalink Reply by Meagan Frank on -
I'm not sure many men would be disappointed with a wife who did all of those things, but I don't know any woman who would be happy with just that. It is funny if you ever try the exercise of writing down what you think a wife is, and then have your husband write down what he thinks a wife is. We were not on the same page for a while in my house, but when I prioritized those things that I really needed to feel more like a wife and less like a maid, I talked with him a lot about what I was missing, and slowly I've felt more appreciated and less used.
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Permalink Reply by Joanna on -
Man.. I SO agree with this "personal assistant" feeling! He is always busy at work these days and I pretty much have to take care of everything around the house. I have a few jobs too but for some reason, I seem to have more time than he does. I don't think this model will work in the future when we have kids though because there will be just too much stuff to do!
Nevertheless, I have to say that it is just something we have to talk to our husbands about and hopefully arrive at some kind of compromise. If I feel too "deprived", I will ask him to help me or share the work. I know that if I continue to do all the chores, I will feel so frustrated one day and that our marriage may become affected. So instead of keeping in all the frustrations, it is good to let it out and talk about it along the way.
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Permalink Reply by Eliza M on -
I don't even know where to start the discussion. I think my husband doesn't even realize there are chores? For example, I took out the caulking and caulking gun to seal up some moldings...after it's done, I left them on kitchen counter just to see if he will just take them down to the storage bin in garage. After a few days of them sitting there, I gave up and put them back myself. Bad enough that I'm the one who has to do the 'guy' stuff, but he would just not see there are things to put back. I tried this with crumpled tissue paper, misc small trash...same thing, he'll just walk by it, leave whatever it out there alone. Could be because he travels extensively and so used to room service and housekeeping from hotels? He doesn't even turn off lights these days....*sigh*
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