Emotional pain

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Permalink Reply by Joanna on September 13, 2009 at 6:08pm

Hi Cindy, I am very sorry to hear this.. I don't understand much about the background but I think first is whether you can cancel your credit card such that you don't have to be emotionally hurt while suffering from having to pay back the debt? If you feel like it, feel free to share with us here. We are all here to listen and ready to share..

Joanna

Permalink Reply by Joanna Trusdle on September 14, 2009 at 6:25am

Cindy, you need to get to a counselor, and someone who can give you some sound advise. No one deserves to live like this.

Permalink Reply by Tasha Ross on September 14, 2009 at 7:21am

Hi Cindy, I too, am very sorry to hear this. Especially since you have been put in such an awkward position. How old is your daughter? Your husband should be ashamed! I guess perhaps since your daughter obviously has seen or heard her father disrespect u, she feels it is okay for her to do it too. And it is not okay! No one under any circumstances deserves to be treated with such abuse. Cancel that card and make them pay the balance. And stop crying and start fighting back! Let them know how u feel.

Permalink Reply by Joanna Trusdle on September 14, 2009 at 9:36am

Cindy - that credit card - is it just in your name or is his on it too? Also, I agree that it's a good idea to close out the card, but you need to be aware of how that might affect your credit, and the card company might have their own little penalties, so make sure you call them and ask a lot of questions. If his name is on that card, you can't just close it. Also, I have difficulties believing that they will pay a penny towards that balance. This is one reason why I recommended getting some sound advice from a professional. Please be sure to let us know how things progress.

Permalink Reply by Joanna on September 14, 2009 at 11:31am

Yeah, I agree. Make sure that you clear out the balance before closing anything. Even one penny left will hurt your credit history.
Let us know where we can help.
Joanna

Permalink Reply by Ivy on September 14, 2009 at 2:37pm

Oh my goodness Cindy, my heart just breaks when I read this. Do you have any family you can stay with for a few days to just clear your head? I think my first move would be to cut up the card and put a block or security code on any purchases made with card (in case they have the number written down somewhere).

You do not deserve this, Cindy.

We all care about you here, so please keep us updated. Cindy, has there ever been any physical abuse?

Permalink Reply by Meagan Frank on September 18, 2009 at 10:08am

Cindy,
It is easy to feel overwhelmed when the entire world feels like it is closing in on you. Pick one thing at a time to focus your energy upon. There are resources and support when you look in the right places. There is a lot of sound advice from the women who have responded to this. Tackle the credit card issue first. Talk to the credit card company and then set small, attainable goals for how you can regain control of this. One step at a time....one change at a time. It sounds like there is a lot to get yourself out from under, and seeking support for how to tackle these issues will help. Keep putting one foot in front of the other...but definitely do not just stand still! Hang in there.

Permalink Reply by cindy light on September 20, 2009 at 8:29am

Thanks to all of you wonderful people, for caring and understanding. I love my kids dearly and I would have gotten the credit cards company involved, however my daughter would be in a lot of trouble. I cried too much, thank god that I have job and I am paying off the cards. My husband is the biggest problem and he will never change. I want to walk away ASAP but I cannot afford to do so. I am just praying to finish paying off the credit cards and one day I can leave.

Permalink Reply by Joanna on November 24, 2009 at 10:49am

Hi Cindy,
Just want to check in and see how you are doing related to this. Hope that things are going better and let us know where we can help...
Joanna